How to Put Yourself First Without Feeling Guilty with Jodi Treschitta
By Miri Lenoff
·June 11, 2026
At some point, most people learn that their needs come last. It happens gradually. You say yes when you mean no. You give when you are depleted. You show up for everyone else and wonder why there is nothing left for you.
Jodi Treschitta has spent years helping people undo this pattern. Her work sits at the intersection of self-care, boundaries, and the deep conditioning that makes both feel selfish.
Why We Feel Guilty for Having Needs
Guilt around self-care is not accidental. Most people absorbed early messages that their value came from what they did for others. That saying no was unkind. That needing things was a burden.
These messages do not announce themselves. They become the operating system. You do not even realize you are running them until you try to do something kind for yourself and immediately feel wrong about it.
Jodi names this clearly: the guilt is a conditioned response. It is not moral information. It is a reflex that was installed without your permission, and it can be changed.
The Real Cost of Not Having Boundaries
The irony of constantly deprioritizing yourself is that it does not actually make you a better partner, parent, colleague, or friend. It makes you a depleted one.
You cannot sustain genuine generosity from a place of emptiness. The giving eventually becomes resentful. The care becomes mechanical. The relationships suffer the very thing you were trying to protect.
Boundaries are not walls. They are the thing that makes real connection possible, because they ensure there is actually something there to connect with.
Saying No as an Act of Integrity
Jodi reframes the word no. Most people experience it as a rejection, something you do to someone else that damages the relationship. She teaches clients to see it as an act of honesty.
When you say yes and mean no, you are not protecting the relationship. You are lying to it. Over time, this erodes trust, even if the other person never knows.
Saying no, clearly and kindly, is how you show up honestly. It is how you respect your own limits and, in turn, respect the other person enough to be real with them.
How Hypnosis and Self-Care Work Together
Jodi uses hypnosis as part of her coaching work, which surprises some clients at first. The application is practical. Many of the patterns around guilt, self-denial, and people-pleasing are running below the level of conscious thought. They are not changed by logic alone.
Hypnosis helps access and rewrite those deeper programs. Combined with conscious self-care practices, the effect is a fundamental shift in how clients relate to their own needs, not as burdens but as legitimate information about how to live well.
The goal is not selfishness. It is self-respect. And from self-respect, everything else gets better.
Watch the full conversation with Jodi Treschitta on the Known Success Coaches Spotlight.