Changing your perspective in life depends on you, no matter what’s the situation…
What does that mean?
Sometimes the answer is right in front of us. We just have to shift our perspective and find the answer that we’ve been looking for in order to reach our goals…
For example, have you ever been looking for something around your house? You look everywhere – in the rooms, garage, kitchen, all over the place. You let it go, thinking that the item you’re looking for is lost – that’s it, done…
All of a sudden another day, you go back to find another item and guess what? You find that missing item you were looking for days or even weeks before.
Why does that happen?
It’s a matter of changing perspectives. Your mind just changed how it was thinking from item 1 to item 2.
The same happens in life. Sometimes we are not sure on what steps to take, what path to select, what actions to implement in order to achieve our goals… We might feel lost, depressed and unfulfilled. Of course, nothing too crazy (because if it is crazy then definitely need more professional help), but we are just not in the right mindset.
How do we change that?
Changing our perspective. If your problem deals with finding answers to a problem, then you might need to change your perspective.
- The first step is knowing what is the problem
You can’t solve anything until you know what is the problem. You can’t just come up with a solution without understanding the problem 100%. You need to be clear.
For example, say you have a problem with selling cars. You haven’t sold a car in a week (very rare for you) and need to provide for your family. You’re under a lot of stress and this is the first time that this happens to you. Of course, there can be so many different problems:
- Problem with your sales pitch
- Problem with the market
- Problem with your negotiation
- Problem with you feeling so pressured
- Problem with your co-workers
- Problems, problems, problems.
But what is the number 1 cause of it? How do you know that? How can you understand what is bothering you and not letting you close the deals?
One way that you can solve this issue is by really taking a look at yourself and recording everything you’re doing – your sales pitch, how you answer the phone, how you feel, everything that you may come in contact with – just record it. I bet you will find something in there that you probably didn’t know about yourself…
Another way is by asking for help. Ask your co-workers, your boss, your most precious clients to help you understand what you’re doing wrong. If you select the right people, people who are willing to help, you might be surprised to find out what you can do to make it better.
Another way of finding out how to improve is simply by changing one little thing in your everyday life – just ONE. Shift the focus and just change one thing. It can be anything.
- The second step is analyzing how to start changing in order to solve the problem.
When you already know what is the problem you can start looking for solutions.
Think of doctors. If they don’t know why someone is sick, then they can’t prescribe medications. Therefore, just like doctors need to do an analysis on the patient, we also have to look at our problem and find out what perspectives need to be changed in order to solve our situation.
- Is a solution based on past experience?
- Is a solution based on research?
- Is a solution the result of advice from someone else?
- Is a solution found in the analysis of the problem?
- Is a solution right in front of us and we don’t even realize?
Many times, we have the solution and we don’t even realize it. That is why when we start to really dig deep and find possibilities and opportunities to solve our problems, we start to see it in a different way.
What do I mean by that?
The solution to the problem might be as easy as the analysis. When you find out that the problem was a basic error, you can start to change it. You get to that solution by knowing the problem and thinking of ways to solve the problem.
It’s not about feeling sorry for yourself. Everything revolves about thinking ahead, knowing where to go, what to do, being constantly in touch with the solution and changing the perspective to finding solutions.
When you know what to do, the problem is not solved. Many times we are caught in knowing what to do, but we avoid taking action, for any of the following reasons:
- Uncertainty that the solution might not solve the problem
- What ifs? – thinking what if this doesn’t work
- Other people – what will others think? Is this really how I want to be in front of others?
There are many reasons why people don’t implement the actions that they know will solve their problems. It’s not necessarily a matter of being lazy and not caring about the solution, it’s about feeding those limiting beliefs about us and letting the fear and insecurities win.
Of course, we know we can’t avoid that. We need to stand up to those insecurities and make sure they know who is in charge.
It’s not easy, but again, this is about changing our perspectives and finding ways to make things happen for us.
Wishing you the best of luck! I hope you can change your perspective when you’re faced with a difficult situation!
All my best!