January 27, 2017

Taking the High Road

Taking the High Road

It’s not easy, it’s about being better, they call it the “bigger person”… It’s about focusing on what’s important in your life and avoiding all of the other “things” – talks, emotions, non-important arguments – that can be silenced.

They’re silenced because they have no positive use. Because they infect and spread bacteria all over your body, even if you don’t see it…

I refuse to let the others bring me down. Those negative thoughts are thoughts that belong in the garbage. They are what I call, “garbage thoughts”. They don’t serve me well, they make my body uncomfortable – but not the good kind of uncomfortable. The type that hurts, the type that your feelings are caught in between what you want to feel and what those thoughts are “making” you feel.

Those thoughts, those words will not bring me down. Because my mind has the control of what I allow it to think. Nobody else has that much power over me, just myself.

I refuse to let this argument ruin my day – because I know that every single day and every single moment is a miracle. Because I know that by focusing on my blessings and my positive surroundings, this too shall pass.

Taking the high road is not easy – if it was, then everyone would do it. Taking the high road is what wise people do. Avoiding the negativity while still being able to express yourself. Making your voice be heard while still knowing that this is not going to damage who you are and what you stand for.

Taking the high road is being the better person – because you know that you won’t be hurting anyone. No, it’s not about the hate, it’s about the love. If nobody sees it, that’s their problem, you are willing to spread it.

Taking the high road is about doing the “right thing” what your values teach you. Avoiding a feeling of “I beat her in that conversation, that girl got what she deserved…” – No, it’s about being humble and staying true to who you are.

Even if nobody sees it, you feel it. Because your mind and your focus is concentrated on a higher power, because you know you will be rewarded in some way, somehow.

You’re taking the high road because you know better and you see the altercation going nowhere.

It’s like seeing two kids playing and not sharing their toys. You have the same reaction when you think of this altercation. Your response, “Really, for real, they look like 4 year olds… grow up”.

For those who take the high road, thank you. Thank you for making this world a better place by avoiding confrontation. Thank you for standing up for what you believe in, while, at the same time, giving the “other” the exit and showing him/her the door to throw away the “garbage thoughts and words”.

Thank you for showing the world what a righteous human being looks like, without spreading rumors, focused on the most important things in life – whatever you define as important.

Thank you for being who you are, because we need more people who are willing to take the high road in order to have a better world.

Thank you for converting those negative emotions into positive thoughts and even blessings for others.

You are taking the high road when you’re confronted by a problem, an altercation or simply a moment of trouble, even small issues.

  • Instead of screaming at the car that cut you off, you bless them
  • Instead of screaming at the driver in the bus, you are thankful for the ride
  • Instead of losing your temper, you cool off and listen to what the other has to say
  • Instead of asking why the “other” did that, you realize that there is only one person like you on the planet – not everyone acts the same way that you do
  • Instead of spreading rumors, you stop them and you start spreading blessings or positive thoughts

You, my friend, have the power to be wiser, smarter, and all around better. Because you throw away the “garbage thoughts” that are not necessary to keep inside. Because YOU make the right choices.

So no, it’s not easy to take the high road. Trust me, it’s way more difficult. But life is not meant to be easy. Reaching your goals and being a better person is not easy. If you took the easy way out you wouldn’t be able to find the MEANINGFUL path.

My friend, take the high road, surround yourself with positivity. Turn the bad into good, turn your mind from negative to positive. Find the opportunities and avoid the setbacks. Only you can make it happen. Only you can live a better life and improve your situation.

Good luck and see you at the top of the mountain, among the many people who wisely chose to take the high road.

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  1. Thank you so much for this article on the topic; taking the high road. Indeed, I have come to realize that we become our thoughts. When we choose to think positive thoughts then we connect with the high road and eventually it becomes our life style. Please advice on how to stay a way from negative minded people without hurting them. Kindest Regards

    1. Hello Jane,
      Thank you for your comment. Staying away from people who have a negative influence in you is a tough one… But, it can be done. Of course, depends on the situation – if you have negative people that you HAVE to see every day at work or because they’re part of your family, then you can start to practice to see the positive things in people, even if you just focus on one or two positive things. Everyone has something positive, everyone has at least something good that we can all learn from – even if it’s something deep down… Other than that, staying away and finding to stick with people who motivate you will get you to a higher and better place.
      You know those people that when you meet them they fill you up with energy and are so pleasant to be around, I would look for them more often than staying with people who are negative…
      I also like meditation so that I can protect my being and protect myself from anyone who carries a negative vibe…
      Does that make sense? I’ll be writing more about that in the future, so stay posted 🙂

  2. Nice piece of advice. My wish is to ignore all negativity in my life , ignore negative people and focus on taking the high road by being living positively.

    1. Thank you for your comment. I think that’s a great way to start. It sounds easy, but it’s very difficult. We sometimes need to be reminded of it and focus on the positives 🙂
      Wishing you all the best!

    1. Hello Jacqueline,
      Thank you for your comment. I hope you continue to be inspired on your path to success.
      Wishing you all the best

  3. Thanks it doesn’t seems simple but it is Doable,I’ve learn something today and believe I can do better and grow as a person

    1. Hello Lebo. Yes, of course it’s not simple, but even making small strides towards the big goal is the key. Best of luck!

  4. You have posted this as though you know what is going in my life currently. I try to do exactly what you have said each day. And it is not easy for sure. But I will hang in there and they will see just what am made of. Thank you.

    1. Hello Annie,
      Many people are going through this as well, you are not alone. Remember if it was easy, it would not have been as worthwhile and anyone could do it. Easy things are not always the best things to do… Hang in there, you can do it.
      Wishing you the best!

  5. Taking the high Road isn’t easy as rightly asserted, and it takes the courageous, those who are tired of the status quo to venture out into the road. Of course it won’t be easy at the initial stage, but once there, success and victory is assured and one will be respected for it. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Yes, totally agree. It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible are there are only opportunities and possibilities in life… Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Totally on point!

    1. Hello Helene,
      Gossiping is when people say something about others behind their back or spreading rumors… Exposing an unjust situation does not necessarily have to be related to gossip. It can be related to other things than gossip like actions or moments. Gossip is more about the way we speak and is more specific than an unjust situation. An unjust situation can encompass many things, one of which could be gossip…
      Hope that helps…

  6. Thanks for this remarkable post .Today I am making a commitment to take the High Road .It may look difficult but am trusting the Holy Spirit to help me through .

    1. That’s great Susan. It’s not easy to make a commitment like. I hope that you are able to stick with your commitment and improve your life through the actions you take.
      God bless

    1. Hello Najla,
      It’s not easy. Not everyone lives in a country where opportunities are available for everyone. That is not to say that you can’t do anything about it. There are amazing stories of people who overcome everything – even if they are living in difficult situations. You can only control what you do, so focus on that and make strides towards your success. Only you have the power to be who you want to be, even in difficult circumstances.
      I pray that your country finds a way to help you, but also that you find the peace inside you to find the high road, even if it seems impossible… (Remember everything is possible…)
      Wish you the best!

  7. Its a wonderful article and very timing to me. Take the high road and keep being positive. Can I share it in my blog?

    1. Hello Erlyn,
      Thank you so much. I am interested to know what your blog is about. Would you mind emailing me a link to mirilenoff@knownsuccess.com?
      Looking forward to hear from you soon

    1. Hello Jacinta,
      Great! Now let’s keep on driving in the right direction so that you can continue to look ahead. 🙂

  8. Like you said, it’s not easy but for sure am feared to taking the high road, it’s only then I will be able to achieve my goals. It was very encouraging reading this article, I must say. Thank you Miriam for filling us in

    1. Thank you Peggy. I hope this inspires you to know that you don’t need to be afraid to take the high road and know that you are doing the right things. – Those things that have values and above all makes sense.
      Wishing you the best!

  9. Thank you, this was so wonderful for me… Because we always want short cuts all the time… but at the end, we have heart aches.. But from now on I will take the long road…. I achieved a lot of things in life but couldn’t keep them because of lack of knowledge… But now I will do what I had here today. It was an eye opener to me. Thank you learning doesn’t end. You learn everyday.

    1. Yes, you learn every single day… Totally agree. Short cuts are usually not the right indicator of what’s right and what’s wrong… Short cuts are deceitful and only bring you back from where you want to go.
      Have the confidence to know that you are able to take the high road to do what’s the best thing to do at the time…
      Thank you for your comment 🙂

  10. My miracle is, Im still alive to this day after all the heart aches I caused for my heart. I used to yell too much when speaking to others in acordance to situations…So I ended up having hypertension,..

  11. Thank you so much Miriam, you are helping me grow,I am transforming through this empowerment,
    Taking the High Road is one of my best since I subscribed, you are a great blessing to my life,and I am on the high road and thank you for encouraging me because I am staying on the coarse till I reach my goal.
    Keep doing it .
    Much Regards

    1. Thank you Gladys. I hope this motivation and encouragement continues within you. You have the power to feel empowered and transformed. You are a blessing, have the confidence that you need in order to reach your goal. Know that you can make it! Wishing you the best

  12. Oh !!

    How nice your words , your sentences, and your thoughts are! For so many years , I’ve been trying to be ideal , kind-heatred, and benificer to others ; esp. poor, or needy people. But , after , all these years, everyday i make a good thing or blessing to others, esp relatives , near relatives , I find hurt , torture and denial from them.

    Each time , I tell myself that God will compensate me for my goodness at the Dooms’s Day. But , unfortunately, people are so harsh, selfish, don’t deserve anything . Whenever I decide to be descent , smart and benificator to someone; I receive more hurt, heart injuries from him/her.

    Oh Miriam, how painfull is it to take the stroke from a near relative or an intimate friend!!!
    I’m this kind of people that is so irritable, nervous, worries about the slightest issues. i treat others sincerely, while life is not rewarding good persons; instead hurt them , put opsticals in front of them . For so many years, I’ve tried to work hard, be honest, exhert time & effort and smetimes money to be perfect at work , home, and among the soial environment .
    But Elas, enery time I am astonished with the level of baddness , selfishness, and heart malady on behalf of others.
    Thi s doesn’t imply that I am an ANGEL among Devils ; but it implies the difficulty I face to live the way you call ” Take the High Raod” . Actually, taking the High Road for me is the ultimate and everlasting Wish or desire in life. But , How can I attain it , while everybody else is in a negative angel . Even my sons and husband ( every morning I say to myself ” Be more patient , try to absorb whatever they tease me with >>> ” but , after some time , I find myself burst into cry , shouting at my sons because they don’t allow me to practice perfect methods of Education with them . My husband also, has nothing to do but his work, thinking in his career , how to get money etc…..
    So, after all such opsticals, how one can take the High Road?? I wish i can live in a Utopia , but even this wish others deny you to attain .

    Maybe I wrote so many ideas, but you can’t reach to your goals without putting other problems and cirumastances into consideration .
    Many thanks for allowing me to have this opportunity to know that taking the right and high raod is not impossible. but the price to reach it si so expensive.


    1. Hello Somaya,
      To me this sounds like maybe you need to speak with your family and with a professional who can potential allow you to create a path for healing and understanding… Taking the high road is doing whatever you can do. Of course, you can only control your own actions, but you can also express yourself and say what you feel… (Of course without shouting or getting mad).
      I hope your road to discovery and success is near, if your life turns for the better. 🙂
      Thank you for sharing your story Somaya

  13. Dear author

    This is truly what I felt since long time and I do try to follow this type of path but sometimes you deviate and thing go wrong. But now after this lovely message I will surly follow it with your further guidance.

    1. This is great! Doing the best that you can is a start, the next step is challenging ourselves to be better people every single day. Thanks for sharing!

  14. you are right I agree with you but what happen in the world make us just try to save ourself unbelieveable things happen . these things confuse mind and make human faraway from himself and prevent him to work on himself . you are right high road is wisdom ., make you on the right way the highest- level of spiritual but could you gave guarantee there is no thing let that high road ended without your willing , sure there is no other plan change your life invesive. for example I’m kurdsh from Iraq never see normal live evry bad things coming suddenly even you cannot be sure you will loses your own house . all the time you cannot feel you are safe this feeling destroy evry good thing make you focus on tiny silly details which make you forget high road . please do not named me as a negative person that is oure life . believe me with all these sadness I never stop trying but unfortunately the generic situation vandalise my plans my style my prioritys in life and start again from the beginning . among all these starting you losse your zealousness and forget your goals , your dreams because you will be older and your age going on … you see in the end no thing worth

    1. Hello Taban,
      Thanks for sharing your story. I know it must be very difficult to see the positives in life when you’re in that environment, but know that your brothers and sisters from abroad are praying for you. Have a positive mind that everything will be better!
      Wishing you the very best and the peace you need to be successful.

    1. Don’t let the pressure take over who you are. Focus on the important tasks and actions so that you are successful…
      Wishing you the very best!

    1. Thank you so much Carol for the beautiful comments. I hope that your life is full of inspiration and motivation. Wishing you the best on your “life changing” experience 🙂

  15. Wow!
    Made sense to me…thank you for keeping in touch…
    Yup! What you have writen were exactly right timing. It gave me courage to face
    what I needed to work out through my day. I am suppose to have a very negative thoughts of what’s happening on my present situation but then you made everything easy. I even have ?the best smile ever. Thank you so much!
    God bless!

    1. Awesome Cecilia!! And now, I am the one smiling after reading this. That’s the best! Spreading smiles, motivation and inspiration is what this world needs, especially at this times…
      Thank you for your comment… Wishing you the very best! 🙂

  16. Setting your mind to something require joy. Joy to sustain it. Not pressure. Count it all joy to do it. Been joyful basically locks into the impossible becoming possible. For the seen are temporary. Unseen is real. Everything we see started as an idea(unseen). Never be dictated by what you see. Its temporary. Tomorrow will change. Hence be joyful today. Choose to be joyful.

    1. Beautiful Olive! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s so true. Being joyful alleviates many of our pressures. I also choose to be joyful. 🙂

  17. This is great. I guess i am already on the road to the high way,i just need to work on a few more stuff to get there. With focus more on positivity and avoiding the negative thoughts and actions i will get there. Thank you for the encouragement.

    1. Awesome Adetola! Glad to read the comment! I’m sure you’ll get there with your positive thoughts!
      Wishing you all the best

  18. thanks so much Mirriam for this article,iam blessed for getting it, it has affirmed me and showed me that iam on the right track, i sincerely hate unneccessary confrontations,grumbling and selfish people.After reading your article i have made a committment to continue in this high way, so help me God and bless Mirriam

    1. Awesome! Just keep in mind that the hate that you mentioned is just going to make you feel upset and nothing comes out of such strong words like hate. Let’s change that to think positively and live a loving life. Way to make the commitment to take the high road 🙂

  19. Thank you for this article, like you say taking a high road is not an easy walk. I am at a point in life where i trust no one. I read a lot of positive posts on Facebook but at times i feel like screaming to the top of my head. I overthink, everything plays like a movie in my head to the extent that i cant have a peaceful sleep. I have decided to take the high road, slowly by slowly i know with the grace of God i will get there. Your article has given me courage, a reason to love and ignore negative energy at my place of work/community where i live , relationship failure and trying to stay focused. I have a lot to work on but i have hope i will get there. Thank you.

    1. Thank you Sifa. I know you will get there because you truly believe you will arrive at your destination. Like you say, stay focused on your path to success.
      Wishing you the best!

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