Distractions or Priorities in Goal Achievement
Would you agree with me if I say that there are so many distractions in today’s world that it’s difficult to stay focused on a specific goal?
Between social media, TV and the millions of things that exist in the world we are left with needing to focus on our goals in order to reach them. Distractions make it very easy to leave a goal unattended or to forget about your initial purpose when we first established our goal. There are certain actions you can take to avoid these pitfalls.
Many people do not reach their goals because they believe that they are not smart enough, good enough or even qualified enough to reach their goals. Having this loser mindset is very detrimental. It is not about who you are now, it’s about what you are doing now to change that. Feeling sorry for what happened in your life will not get you anywhere. I am not trying to be mean, but sometimes we need to wake up from this dream in order to change and improve our lives. Having self-confidence requires time and effort and only we can change how we feel about ourselves, nobody else can do that for us.
When it comes to setting goals, having self-confidence is key to reaching those goals. If you are someone who feels victimized, then you will probably find excuses. It’s time to take charge and leave outside of your life all of those negative thoughts and emotions that are making you feel down. It’s not about what happened in your life, it’s about how you respond to those changes. 90% of the actions are uncontrollable by us, but the other 10% is how you respond to those actions. Starting to take control and focusing on your goal is about building up your self-confidence in order to reach the purpose you are seeking. Don’t be afraid to be who you are in a confident way. It’s inside you, you just have to find it.
Finding Results Instead of Excuses
My dog ate my homework excuse does not work when you are the teacher and you are the student. Finding excuses can be detrimental in reaching your goals. Instead of finding excuses, find results, find little wins that you have worked for in order for those excuses to seek a different door. Having the responsibility, respect and commitment on yourself puts you above everything and everyone else. Focusing on those results, even as little as they might seem, gives you more confidence to move forward. For example, take Tommy who is a 25-year-old man. He always finds excuses for everything he does. For him, it has become very difficult to reach his goals. However, instead of focusing on his lack of focus, he started to focus on first setting a goal and has committed himself to actually change his way of life in order to reach it. What changed? His attitude. He has been saying that he wants to improve his way of life, but he does not actually make it happen. It’s about finding deep inside the commitment, respect and responsibility that you need to make the transformation.
Find the Happiness in Life Instead of Feeling Overwhelmed
Happiness is desired by so many people. Of course, feeling overwhelmed is a human condition that we have been trapped in. When we start to change the mindset and start enjoying the journey, everything changes. Life is like a game and you need to learn how to play it.
The movie Life is Beautiful is a reminder of this. Of course, going through the Holocaust is a terrible experience and nothing in our life can compare to the atrocities of what people went through, however, the little boy was focused on the game and his father created a separate reality about life. Even in the darkest moments, the goal became the focal point of the little boy’s life and he understood that in order to win the game he had to be focused on what was important to him. When the war is over and he sees the tank, he knows he won, but not only did he win the game, he won his own survival.
The movie is a reminder of how we can change our focus and how we can be devoted to what is important, our goals and our commitment to ourselves.
Having Priorities and Choosing Wisely
If you were a great student, would you go out and get drunk the night before taking a very important exam like the LSAT or MCAT? Probably not, your priority at that time would be the most important test that would determine your next step in life. You probably studied months and months in order to take the test and you would not waste that precious opportunity. The same applies with all of the decisions that we make. It’s not the decisions’ fault when something goes wrong, it’s about the priorities that we give that decision.
Priorities come in different shapes and sizes. Selecting to go to work is a priority since you need money to survive, but others might think differently. Others might want to go to work because they enjoy what they do. I tend to believe that most people actually work because they have to work, but if you realize, everything and everyone has a different priority. Making the right decision is about what is right for you and choosing wisely based on what you need to get done. It’s about setting your goals straight and acting in a way that will allow you to reach those destinations you are seeking.
Avoiding distractions can become easier if we are focused on the organization of our lives. Focusing on what to do throughout the day in an organized way will give you direction. It’s not just waking up every day and doing the same thing over and over again. It’s about waking up and finding a purpose. For example, the night before you go to sleep, write down your most important tasks about what you need to get done in the morning. When you wake up, look at that list and think about how you are going to make that happen. If you realize, at that moment in time you are laser focused on the task and the organization of the first thing you need to get done in the morning.
Not everyone is good with strict organization, but most have their own way of organizing their day. The purpose is to wake up and have in mind what we are going to get done today, what we are going to learn, or simply how we are going to get all the things we need to get accomplished. Having the organization in your mind gives you the commitment to reach those goals because you will incorporate those goals in your organization.
When we talk about organization we are not talking about listing everything and following a strict calendar of activities. Organization is different for each person. Some people might prefer having a calendar and following a strict list, others might need a looser interpretation of the word. However, not matter what you decide is right for you, it is instrumental to be focused on your organization and make things happen!
This list contains a few items that are important to what can lead someone to make the right decisions and the right mindset. It’s not about what you don’t have, it’s about what you can accomplish. Find the commitment within yourself to make things happen and forget about the distractions that are out there. At the end of the day is about making you feel better and about reaching your goals. It’s not about anything else. You are the star of your show, start acting taking over the main character!